Luca’s first birthday is around the corner (sort of… it’s 3 months away) so naturally I’m daydreaming about invitations, themes and cupcakes. I guess as a SAHM I have nothing better to do than to plan an extravagant party right?? Wrong. I can barely keep my house clean let alone plan a ridiculously intricate birthday party for a baby who won’t even appreciate my efforts. Yet, other moms seem to find the time…and I mean, they find a LOT of time. I’m not trying to point any fingers or anything but SERIOUSLY?? THIS is out-of-control!! YOU HUNG A MOON CAKE FROM YOUR CEILING??? WHAA….??? There are no words.
Ok, Moms… Level with me. I get that decorating is super fun and you love your kid SO much… but come on guys, you’re setting the bar WAY too high here. People like me who just want to order food and kick-back feel totally lame because we didn’t hand-make each kid a personalized super-hero cape. Right… so there’s the problem. I’ll admit it… This is about my own insecurities… I don’t want to look bad in front of other moms. Like, I’m afraid I’ll be judged or something. Or maybe it’s just that I’ll miss hearing the compliments, “Oh wow! You MADE that?? That’s so cute!!” And inside I could be like, “Heck ya I made that, I’m awesome!” I think really what it is for me is that there’s an expectation. I’m a Stay-at-Home-Mom so my kid’s first birthday party should be exploding with DIY details. Honestly, I’d rather spend the time I could be crafting on other things, like playing with my kid.
Truthfully, I think that if you are into that stuff, you should go for it. Just don’t stress about it. For me, I do plan on making a couple of little special things here and there because it is fun for me (to a certain extent). BUT, my motivation can’t be because I don’t want to feel lame compared to other moms. I have to respect that some moms are way crafty and have more time and energy to do those types of things for parties. It’s just not my thing. I want to be relaxed before, during and after his party. For me, creating a Pintastic party is not relaxing. It’s stressful. DIY projects always take longer and more of my energy than I planned. Aaand… I’m always surprised that all of my efforts don’t necessarily make that big of a difference on the party. I want to find a way to choose the special touches that actually have some kind of an impact. I guess I’m talking about efficiency here. What are the things that I could do that will actually make the party more fun, not just cute? I hate doing projects that take forever and then just get tossed in the trash after the party is over.
So what do you veteran moms suggest? What things do you take the time to do and what things do you pass on? New mamas, what do you plan on doing for your baby’s first birthday?
- Moms face increasing birthday party ‘DIY’ stress, study finds (today.com)
- Creative DIY Birthday Party Tips Have Been Released On Kids Activities Blog (prweb.com)
- Planning a Successful First Birthday Party for Your Child (parenting.answers.com)