Adventures in Co-Sleeping: The Saga Continues

Luca napping in his co-sleeper. Seems perfectly content right?…

A few readers have asked how co-sleeping is going for us since I wrote about it a couple of months ago. In general, it’s going well. We abandoned the whole ‘Luca Sandwich” idea because Caleb and I wanted to be closer to one another and our bed was getting cramped. So, in came the Arm’s Reach Co-Sleeper. It’s awesome. We connected it to my side of the bed and it’s been so convenient. We have more space in the bed and Luca is still easy to access when he needs to eat. That’s best case scenario.

Worst case scenario is that Luca is having a harder time falling asleep initially while in the co-sleeper. If that’s the case, I just pull him into bed next to me until he falls asleep and then put him over into the co-sleeper after he’s fallen asleep. I make sure to remove my pillow from the bed and to put myself into a “sleep safe” position in case I happen to fall asleep.

Many times, in the middle of the night, I’ll fall asleep while nursing Luca in the side-laying position so I always make sure that I’m in a safe position. Well, let’s just say that I learned my lesson. One time, I fell asleep on accident and awoke to the sound of Luca rolling off of the bed and into the co-sleeper! I freaked-out. I was seriously rattled by it for the rest of the night. Funny thing is, Luca barely even woke-up! He just laid on his tummy and continued to sleep, ha! I was definitely more traumatized than he was. It made me realize the importance of having a co-sleeper or bed rail on the edge of the bed.

I do sleep better when Luca is in the co-sleeper. We are talking about getting a bigger bed so that when he outgrows the co-sleeper (weight limit is 30 lbs), we can have enough room in our bed. Right now, having him sleep next to me doesn’t give me the most restful sleep because I’m squished between my husband and the invisible “safe zone” that I put around Luca in my mind.

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The above text was written two weeks ago. Things have definitely changed…

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It’s amazing how much can change in two weeks! Suddenly, Luca seems so much more aware of his environment, he also started teething so he is much more sensitive. He just doesn’t like the co-sleeper anymore. I can’t quite figure out why. Is he cold? Does he just want to be closer to me? Is the mattress uncomfortable? It could be many things. But he’s been sleeping in our bed which is getting CRAMPED and I’m afraid he’ll roll off the bed and face plant into the co-sleeper. No bueno.

So today, after about a week of horrible sleep, we’re taking matters into our own hands. We are going to 1) Put height-extenders on the co-sleeper so that it is more level with our bed, 2) raise the co-sleeper mattress (again, so it’s even with our bed) and 3) Try to make the mattress more comfortable by putting a soft blanket underneath the fitted sheet (we figure he’s old enough now that this won’t pose a SIDS risk).

See how the co-sleeper is uneven with our bed?
We need to raise-up the co-sleeper itself AND the mattress…

Aside from the logistics, we still really like having Luca in our bed/room and believe strongly in the psychological benefits of it. I also think/hope that once we get the logistics figured out, I’ll be back to getting good sleep because I won’t be so squished in the bed! If I do bring Luca into our bed, at least he’ll just roll over into the evenly placed co-sleeper and not take a big drop down. I’m learning that with co-sleeping (or maybe just parenting in general?) that you have to roll with the punches and be flexible. I really think we’ve found a good solution… Wish us luck!

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8 thoughts on “Adventures in Co-Sleeping: The Saga Continues

    • We don’t have a certain time frame on it, but we are definitely planning on co-sleeping for a while (years) longer so long as it seems to continue to benefit the entire family. The psychological benefits of co-sleeping are different depending on the age of the child but for 0-1 year the main benefit is establishing a firm foundation of trust that has resulted from an ease of quick responsiveness. In other words, babies learn that they don’t need to cry hard or for a long period of time in order to get what they need. I should write a more comprehensive post on the subject! Thanks for the inspiration! A great read on the subject is the book:, “Beyond the Sling,” by Mayim Bailik


  1. Yay, co-sleeping! Despite any ups and downs, we found it to be completely worth it! Our daughter is now 5 and the long and often sleepless nights are behind us, but the sense of security she has is soooo worth it! I wish you much luck on your journey.
    If you have the time and interest, I would love if you checked out my blog of kids projects & mom stuff.


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